E – Exercise #AtoZChallenge

  • What have you done?
  • Your clothes are fitting loose now
  • You have lost weight
  • Are you dieting?

These are the common comments I hear from people I meet. Feels little weird for a person who is used to the other extreme comments – being called fatty, advised on how weight control is important, judging the food I eat because of my weight.. the best answer I developed for this was to Smile.

 Like every other obese or overweight person, I always thought of getting fit, exercising, following diet but could never do it. Having read blogs, social media posts of the struggles, the common factor for many like me was motivation and to stay motivation.

A simple ‘statement like be careful while standing on the chair /table, it will break’ is enough to lower your confidence. What is the best way to start? Gym, yoga, cross fit, walking, swimming, so many options and social advice we get…

For me, the shift happened in my mind – When I broke the psychological block of fitness. Most importantly when I got the right encouragement; positive encouragement. I started seeing some visible results; I slowly started believing that I can be fit.

Yet again there was an obstacle. Traffic, travel became an issue to manage to reach fitness center on time. One day of bunking the workout session becomes a bad example to take it lightly. Finally I again stopped exercising. But in this phase my mind had become stronger to pursue exercise whatever the case.

In next few months I found another fitness center. This time I again received the required encouragement. And this was the second shift in my thinking.  I met an encouraging trainer, patiently listening to me and my body. He shattered another psychological block –

“Weight Loss is not important, You being Fit is more important” 

With this he never allowed me to go near the weighing machine. He says , “the day people start commenting and noticing change in you, the results will be seen.” Playfully I started addressing him as a doctor and not a trainer. Every day he would ask if there is any body pain, few days later he will try to understand what difference I am noticing. I realized this was his way of studying if the workout is helping me. He helped me release the conscious and subconscious pressure of losing weight.

Most importantly I started enjoying workouts. Looked forward to my gym sessions, changed my other priorities, tried to accommodate my exercise more meaningfully in my daily routine.  I have surprised myself my hitting the gym at 10 pm.. even if it is for half an hour.  Started becoming restless if I missed it for more than 3-4 days..

4 months down I have not lost much weight, maintain low carb diet becomes difficult. The biggest change has been my attitude and perspective of looking at fitness. That’s when the external comments just become a part of this process.. not something to be bogged down with. Today also I Smile at the comments, but with a different attitude & I’m loving it !

How have you overcome psychological blocks?

D – Dadar #AtoZChallenge

Our birthplace is always close our heart. For me it’s Dadar – a central place for all Mumbai citizens to travel. Dadar in literal terms means steps. And indeed it has been a staircase for me to become the person I am.

Often we relate our behaviour or who we are to a particular country, city or a town. From the Indian context it would mean a Delhi vs Mumbai person, Mumbai vs Pune person. We unconsciously develop traits or identity of a particular place. On thinking deeply, I think it is our immediate neighbourhood or a place that plays a critical part in this process.

While I am a ‘Mumbai girl’ Dadar is a part of my personality. It is associated with connectivity, buzzing with people, socio-cultural developments, theatre and sports, markets thronged with shoppers. I find so many similarities and identify with many other.

  • Growing up in Dadar has been like a sponge. It offers ample opportunities to absorb and learn – from cultural events, sports, educational institutions to political developments. Probably my curious mind was developed because of this.
  • The Badaas attitude – The safety, security and cohesiveness of this place never made me think twice of making my own choices. Not to be afraid, discover new things, and meet people – providing a free and open environment.
  • Dadar has taught me to be inclusivity. To get along with people and be a team player. The old wadis, long last neighbours creates the community bonding. Teaches you to be caring, compassionate and makes one an empathetic person.
  • Enjoying culture – Festivals are an intrinsic part of Dadar from every angle. Traditionally People across the city and from outside throng Dadar market for festive shopping. It makes me wonder with so many shopping malls, new shopping places and hip places why is Dadar market always buzzing with people. Maybe the answer lies in its identity.
  • Food and its evolution – Dadar is known for famous Maharashtrian eateries, local seafood favourites and popular street food joints. In today’s scenario, it doesn’t offer many ‘cool’ options for pubs and clubbing. But it still has a distinct evolving food culture. Think of it, I am so much like that. I love to explore new restaurants but yet stick to my roots with a typical CKP fish preparations.

Last but not the least how can I forget Dadar chowpatty and my love for sea!

Have you ever wondered how your birthplace has shaped your personality?

C – Change #AtoZChallenge

Many years back while returning home from my classes my head was buzzing with thoughts. I came home, opened a diary and penned down my thoughts – Change is the only constant. In the pre-dotcom days, didn’t know I was actually writing a blog.

From maintaining diaries, to writing blogs, pen-friends to online friends, change is indeed constant in so many aspects of life. People, relationships, jobs, habbits, everything changes. The change is good. But on retrospect I think Change is becoming transformative. Look around us, even 2-3 years seem to be so different. Today I am using the internet from my mobile hotspot without any network problem. This itself is a small yet big change where mobile internet was seen expensive just 3 years back..

When I say Change is transformative, I think of positive change. A change that makes you learn new things, explore new places, and discover newer facets of your own self. Not because you have to, but because you want to. And that is a significant change.

Personally if I look at short span of last 3 years, so much has changed – my eating habbits, interpersonal skills, attitude towards looking at failures, ability to handle adverse situations, courage to be more responsible and enhancing professional capabilities.  These subtle and subconscious changes lead to a bigger trans-formative change.

Important to know if what did we learn from this change. How will we be lead the change that is waiting at the doorsteps? More so when this change is guided by technology – in our personal and professional lives, from toddlers to senior citizens.

I have decided to lead it this way –

  • Changing attitude towards health & fitness
  • Improving professional capabilities
  • Making some concrete goals
  • Becoming a compassionate person

Am sure when I look back at this blog, I will see the transformative change.

Your thoughts?

Consistency – the key to success

I restarted my blog around this time last year. One day I realised  I  have stopped thinking on my own – my writing and thoughts have been restricted to my professional requirements. It was good enough a trigger for me to relook at blogging..

When I started afresh, it also offered me an opportunity to learn so many things. Because blogging itself had changed so much. Apart from writing posts, there were so many other skills I wanted to learn – making creatives, using different tools etc. I was happy with the initial response to my posts.

There came phase when I completely stopped posting. Not because I did not have anything to post, but just could not put my thoughts together. Weekends passed, weekdays were occupied. That’s when I decided I needed to be consistent.. it comes with so many other things – planning, writing, thinking.  So today for the first time I just logged in and started penning down my thoughts…

Another area I really worked on being consistent is in exercising. I have earlier written about how I overcame the psychological barrier about fitness. But this time I decided to be consistent. I put exercise over everything else for last 3 months – social life, work. The results started showing. I started feeling good, That’s when again I slipped. I missed my sessions. But the good thing was I was missing exercise.. I again decided to challenge my inconsistency..

These and some other things have made Consistency my measurement of success for 2019.  I want to be consistent is every task I do.

What are your tips of being consistent?